Sometimes as much as you’d like for things to be other than what they are, they aren’t.
You can negotiate, reorient, delay the inevitable or even use your favorite feel good strategy and it won’t make a difference. You may even pull out your favorite books by your most beloved authors and won’t find succor or respite. At the end of the day the only thing that gets you through these challenging experiences is mastering your inner game.
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” Victor Frankl
In hindsight, you come to realize that these moments are the proverbial ‘fork in the road.’ These are the experiences that transform you. They may seem to shatter you irrevocably, like Humpty Dumpty, and it’s true you are never able to put yourself back together again. What arises after these transformative experiences is a new being, a new creation. You are the phoenix arising from the ashes.
It is these very same turning points that create the deeper grooves in your sensing, the clarity of vision, the fortitude of character. As this new you cools off, from the smoldering cauldron of chaos, myriad possibilities become available.
Here are some tools to explore the inner game:
1. Breathe fully into your body, especially the places that feel particularly fractured. It’s just the coming apart of the old and the re-engineering of You. Take comfort in the constancy of the in-flow and out-flow of breath. This rhythm is as timeless as the stars.
2. Feel yourself cradled in the arms of the Cosmic Mother. Allow yourself to be warmly wrapped in her embrace. Seek her solace, shed your tears, relinquish your yearnings. Find yourself in the secure sensation of nurturing sustenance from the giver of all life. You are worthy of her caring concern. Surrender yourself into her loving essence.
3. Trust your experience to a wisdom keeper. You know who these beings are. They may be in the physical or the non-physical realms. It may be an ascended master or teacher. It may be an ancestor or an angel. The sheer act of being heard by them changes the energy of your experience. Their words are a balm to your spirit. Their essence soothes the solitude. Existential aloneness vanishes and you once again find yourself a vibrant thread in the weave of life.
Transformative experiences are made painful by resistance. In and of themselves, they are the new seeking your engagement. All life is a come and a go. The one constant is change. Opening to life awakens your essence and leads you to movement that makes you anew. And a new you gives rise to a new world.
Image: Phoenix Arising from the Ashes, Christoph Jaszczuk
Tags: Change, Resistance, Transformation
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Angela
870 days ago
i am taking a deep breath and letting this sink in. ’09 was a challenge and transformation. my adrennal system shut down and for a while i lost the ability to speak, understand and so much more. today i see how to leave a comment. first time i comprehended. last week i couldn’t figure out where the gas guage was in the car– then i did a week later.
relax and be the moment
relax and be the hour
relax and be the power of the moment of the hour
relax and be the me
God meant for me to be
may not be the best fit but it’s the one i could figure out
rosemary graham
870 days ago
A really lovely meditation which just shifted so much in me which was hanging there today. I felt SO relaxed nearly asleep and cradled with love. I awoke this morning feeling really loved and this call emphasised this. My whole body feels reconnected. Thankyou so much Adela, the energy on this set of calls is a blessing even beyond all the words and feels more and more…………………wonderful connecting.
Gina
867 days ago
Love this:
‘These are the experiences that transform you. They may seem to shatter you irrevocably, like Humpty Dumpty, and it’s true you are never able to put yourself back together again. What arises after these transformative experiences is a new being, a new creation. You are the phoenix arising from the ashes.’
Love the phoenix image!
I have been working with my spirit guides much more recently and I feel that I have this unusual calmness – or when I am entering a situation that I rather not enter and feel some anxiety stirring up, I choose to go through it anyway (even though I can easily retreat), asking my guides to be there with me. It’s truly pretty amazing.
Thanks Adela!
Adela Rubio
870 days ago
Angela,
I’ve noticed that when these things happen it can sometimes feel like I’m a ‘walk-in.’ Literally, I am walking into a new body and a new experience. It can be disorienting. That’s why connection to breath and body have been so vital for me. If you think about it, it’s what welcomes you to ‘this world’ . . . that first breath.
Breath also allows you to slow down, to deepen, to sink in. Ahhh . . . Welcome, welcome, welcome.
Adela Rubio
870 days ago
Rosemary,
Nothing like being nurtured by the Cosmic Mother, yes?
This image came to me as I was writing the post and felt all-encompassing. There is nowhere where she is not. Some might call her by another name but I felt her immensity and her all pervasiveness. Thank you for being the connection.